While writing my book “The Guardian”, I ran into an interesting problem: my main character is male, and well – I’m not.
I actually struggled with this quite a bit, and several of my rewrites happened because I just wasn’t sure how to write a strong teenage boy character.
Now I’m writing book number two. To avoid doing numerous rewrites, I’ve – don’t laugh – done some ah, research into the differences between how men and women think.
My husband thinks my findings are obvious, but in case you’re like me and totally clueless as to how to write the opposite sex… or even begin understand our differences, here’s what I discovered:
- Men tend to only think of one thing at a time.
- Women will think of many things at once. Their thoughts are like a mind map chart – different bubbles of thought connecting to and inspiring other thoughts.
- When there is a problem, men “filter out” the emotional side and deal directly with the issue.
- When there is a problem, women want to work through their emotions first. Once the emotional side is resolved, they can deal with the problem itself. That’s why they tell guys “I don’t want you to fix me, just listen.”(PS ladies, this line drives men crazy… they don’t understand the point of discussing a problem you don’t want fixed.)
- If a problem can’t be immediately resolved/ “fixed” men decide to “just not think about it.
- If a problem can’t be immediately fixed, it is actually physically impossible for a woman to “just not think about it”. As much as she may want to forget about it, she can’t physically do this and will lay awake at night feeling it gnaw away at her insides until the trouble is dealt with. (PS men, “Just don’t think about it” can be the most infuriating advice a man will ever give a woman.)
Now that I’ve got that figured out (hardly), my next task is to unravel the mind of a teenager. Now that is one tangled web!